Are you concerned or even fearful that your aging parent should no longer drive a car? This is one of the most important deliberations, considerations and possible actions you will probably face as a caregiver.
A person’s age is not and should not be the reason for taking away the car keys. There are people in their 80s and older who hold licenses and drive safely, while there are others in their 50s and 60s who are dangers to themselves and others when behind the wheel. And, remember, the most driving-accident-prone population are actually the nation’s youngest drivers, aged 15 through 19!
If you’re thinking about taking a parent’s keys away, first consider their physical and mental condition:
Vision: Conditions such as cataracts, macular degeneration and glaucoma can hamper driving ability. Your parent’s optometrist or ophthalmologist can identify vision problems, limitations, concerns and cautions. It is possible that some limitation in vision can be accommodated by not driving at dusk or night. If your mom or dad wears glasses, schedule an annual eye and vision examination.
Physical ability: Driving takes dexterity, ability and strength in both arms and legs/feet to control the vehicle at all times. Consider any physical limitations. Consider, too, if he or she has shrunk a bit in physical size, where the solution may be to move the driver’s seat forward and upward for both better control and vision over the hood of the car, and/or adding a pillow.
Physical activity: Mature adult drivers die in auto accidents at a rate higher than other age brackets because, at home, many do little or no exercise, not even a daily walk outside. Therefore, if your parent currently does no physical activity to maintain or build strength, agility and aerobic ability, this should be a concern. Importantly, it is probably correctable by introducing him or her to less television time and more physical activity.
Diseases: Patients with Alzheimer’s disease can become disoriented almost anywhere, and a severe diabetic may fall into a coma. The parent’s physician can advise of such possible problems and risks.
Medications: Prescription drugs are chemicals designed to produce specific and desired changes or functions within the body. But, as in the law of physics, for every action there is a reaction. That reaction may be drowsiness and/or a slowing of the person’s reaction time. In the field of medicine these are identified as side effects and may affect a person’s ability to drive.
A patient taking several different prescription drugs, particularly if they are prescribed by different doctors who don’t have updated knowledge of other drugs being taken, may have even more serious side effects as each of the drugs creates its own side effects plus conflict with other drugs to cause even worse reactions. Your parent’s physician(s) can advise of the side effects of each drug plus the added conflicts that may occur with multiple prescriptions. You may also take all the prescription containers to a friendly pharmacist who can quickly do a computer-based analysis.
The American Medical Association has published a detailed report and recommendation to all of its physician members that they assist caregivers, answer their questions, and present their recommendations regarding the elder’s physical and medical conditions. The report also recommends that the physician be actively involved in counseling the patient to hang up the car keys.
Here are some hints for determining your mom or dad’s ability to drive:
Ride along: Take a ride or three with your parent and observe his or her physical ability in controlling the vehicle, staying within the lane, how turns are handled, the driving speed, ability to scan from left to right, any visual susceptibility to glare, and for any possible confusion in traffic. Do your observations simply, without nagging or distraction. Make notes upon return, for you may need to share them with an expert.
Check the vehicle: Periodically check the outside of the car for any possible dents or scrapes.
Accompany your parent to physicians’ appointments: At least once, go to every medical specialist and service or treatment center and, and have him or her sign a release of confidentiality form naming you as a relative with whom they can share any and all medical and mental information without their violating federal confidentiality laws. If your relative is on Medicare, you can check the Explanation of Benefits (EOB) statements he or she receives after each medical visit or payment. This will ensure that you are aware of every person and service involved medically. These steps will guarantee that you can ask questions and express concerns privately as well as invoke professional assistance.
Research other available transportation for if and when mom or dad must quit driving. Investigate Dial-A-Ride, public transit, specialized transit (door-to-door service typically by minibuses) and even volunteers who provide chauffeur service. Uber or Lyft have also proven invaluable in transporting seniors safely and reliably. And talk to your siblings, children and other relatives about being volunteer drivers when needed.
Taking the car keys removes the parent’s independence, the ability to drive to the market or to meet friends for coffee, to church and the senior center, the library or to visit friends. The experience can be traumatic. Involve mom or dad in the consideration and decision. You may find a positive reaction when talking candidly with them, and they will understand your care and concern for their safety. You just have to find a tactful, loving way to approach this sensitive topic.