As much as we enjoy the sights, sounds and experiences of the holiday season, it’s important to remember that the holidays can be overwhelming for seniors – particularly those who are coping with dementia, Alzheimer’s or chronic illnesses. Having their routines disrupted or participating in myriad activities may leave them feeling confused, anxious or tired.
Here are some tips for making the season more enjoyable for you and your senior loved ones, including those in assisted living or receiving skilled care or home care.
Hosting gatherings that include seniors
Experts recommend keeping holiday celebrations small, quiet and relaxed. If your loved one enjoys preparations, you may ask him or her to help in the kitchen, wrap packages or set the table. Include your loved one as much as possible in the festivities, but plan to keep daily routines in place and allow them time to rest from any noise or excitement.
It may be helpful to provide an update of any changes in appearance, behavior or memory to family members and other guests, especially if they haven’t seen your loved one in a while. You may want to offer communication tips or suggest something they might bring, such as a photo album.
For seniors with significant memory impairment, it can help to show photos of guests who are coming and explain who will be visiting, even as far as a week before the event.
Create a safe and calm experience for seniors
While holiday decorations can be a source of joy and nostalgia, it’s best to choose your favorites and pare down how much you use. Too many decorations can create clutter, pose a safety hazard or disrupt the familiarity of the senior’s surroundings.
Experts also recommend avoiding:
- Unsupervised candles, menorahs or anything that could pose a fire hazard
- Unsecured Christmas trees, lights and breakable objects
- Blinking lights or lighting that is too bright or dark
- Artificial fruits or decorations that could be mistaken for edible treats or real food
Familiarity and routine will minimize distress. Keep any outings brief and be prepared to leave early if necessary. Manage the number of visitors coming to see your loved one and avoid large groups.
Ideas for low-key activities to do with your senior loved one
- Listen to music, such as favorite artists or holiday selections
- Watch seasonal movies while enjoying treats
- Look at photo albums together and ask your loved one about family history
- Take a drive or short walk to look at holiday decorations
- Attend a religious service or cultural event
As your loved one’s abilities have changed, it’s perfectly reasonable to set realistic boundaries. You do not have to live up to the expectations of friends or relatives. Remember that you can’t do it all and it’s OK to focus on the holiday activities and traditions that are most important to you.
Kadan Homecare stands ready to assist you and your family with senior home care in Atlanta, particularly during this busy season of the year.
