During the holiday season, we’re often reminded that, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” However, that may not ring true for those facing their first holiday after a loved one has died.
Here are recommendations from mental health professionals and senior health experts if you or someone close to you is struggling with how to navigate the holidays following a loss.
Do what feels right to you
There is no ‘right’ way to observe the holiday season as you’re grieving. Rituals and activities may feel comforting, reassuring and like a good distraction from grief. They also may feel overwhelming or unmanageable. It’s important to create realistic expectations about what you can do. It’s okay to say no and to scale back your plans. It’s also okay to create new traditions and let go of any traditions that no longer feel right.
Honor your loved one’s memory
Engaging in a meaningful remembrance of your loved one can bring comfort during this time. Some ideas include sharing stories about him or her on social media, planting a tree, lighting candles and displaying photos, and creating a memory box filled with photos and notes. Consider enjoying and sharing your loved one’s favorite foods, games and music while the family is gathered.
You may find comfort in doing something tangible to help others in honor of your loved one. Making a charitable donation or volunteering for a cause that he or she valued can bring comfort to you and those in need. You also could spend time helping others who may be going through a similar illness or experience.
Take care of yourself
Human responses to loss and the various symptoms and reactions to grief can have physical effects, according to the Mayo Clinic. These include fatigue, trouble eating or sleeping, headaches and other illnesses. Grief can actually interrupt normal brain functioning by changing brain chemicals and hormones, which can compromise your immune system.
It’s important to take good care of yourself during this time. Eat healthy food, exercise, get enough rest and accept any offers of help with tasks such as cooking, shopping or decorating.
Having a support system in place is a tremendous asset when it comes to navigating grief in any season. If you or a loved one could use supportive assistance during this busy time, Kadan Homecare would be honored to talk with you about your family’s needs.
